A time in my life that this was especially the case was high school. During this time span, I took things so literally. If my peers didn't except me then I thought that it would always be this way. I thought if I could not make and sustain friends, then I wouldn't have friends throughout my life. I would even sometimes think that if I couldn't find anyone to hang out with me on the weekends, then no one really cared about me.
I bring this up because I recently did a funeral for an 18 year old high school student from Rogers. He hung himself sometime in the early morning after reflecting about his friend's funeral he had spoke at the day prior. I am not sure why he actually did it, but I am guessing it has something to do with feeling like there was no answer for tomorrow.
We all have heard the saying, "This too shall pass." When we are young, I am not sure if we completely understand this. All of our issues seem insurmountable. However, as we grow older and experience more of life, we see that things do get better. They might not work out as we want them to, but what was once a mountain seems more like a mole hill.
When you are going through things that seem like there will be no end. Please note, it will pass and nothing...NOTHING...is worth taking your life over. If you find yourself facing these demons; please, seek out a friend, a counselor, or a phone number to call. Do whatever it takes to get through the issue.
If I may, I feel the best thing you can do when you are facing these types of feelings is to begin serving others. It is in this that we find the meaning of life.
I think, as we grow, we also understand that this life is not about me. Life's true meaning is about others. Life's meaning has to do with...
- how well am I loving others
- how well am I serving others
- how well do I add value to other people's lives
Here is one of things I am thankful for...my two girls!
